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Makow -- Politically Incorrect Advice for Young Men (Updated)

September 6, 2022

What I wish I knew when I was 21. (I am 72 now.)

This repost is needed now more than ever when the Satanists are messing with our perception of reality.

" Avoid women who exhibit any of the four-C's: compete, control, criticize or complain. 
 Avoid women who are overachievers or neurotic. Don't get hung up on unavailable women. 
 They're not as special as they think. Choose a wife who complements you and is a good companion. 
Choose one who will be a good mother."

Revised From Feb 27, 2015

by Henry Makow PhD

My life was dysfunctional until the age of 50 partly because I accepted the feminist assumptions purveyed by the mass media.

I never imagined the Communist central banking cartel is destabilizing society by trashing heterosexual roles. This hate attack on the traditional family continues unabated today. The purpose is undermine resistance to a totalitarian New World Order disguised as a permanent pandemic. 

Like millions of men, I was let "off the hook" by sexual liberation and feminism. Instead of becoming a husband and father, I was free to have sex and search for my "identity."

Often sex and identity were confused. I didn't understand that men mature and find purpose by assuming the responsibility of marriage and family.

As a result, I suffered from arrested development (immaturity) and missed my opportunity to have a family.

What follows is an antidote to Communist feminist propaganda. I don't want young men to make the same mistakes i did.

1. The creation of a strong and loving family is perhaps the highest goal to which a man can aspire. This is the natural process by which men (and women) grow over a lifetime. This is how we find love and intimacy. It isn't for everyone but for most, it is the path to happiness.

2. Stop listening to the media, your peer group or parents. 

"Trust thy self," Emerson says in Self Reliance (1841) "Whoso would be a man, must be a nonconformist." What are your instincts telling you? For example, I always knew I wanted to rule my own roost but feminism prohibited this. Obey your instincts. Believe in yourself. No one believes in someone who does not believe in himself.

3. Make work (not women) your passion. Work is the backbone of a man. Men gain self-confidence from performing a task well, and receiving reward and recognition. Women may try to come between a man and his work but don't let them. Don't let anyone or anything thwart your gift. Women do not respect men who make them their first priority. Your work will keep you on course and help you to avoid temptation.

4. Don't mistake sexual attraction for love. Our society makes female beauty and sex into a phoney religion in order to distract us. Sex and beauty soon become tedious. The magic ends. Do not marry someone based on sexual infatuation. Real love develops over a long period of time and is based on mutual dependence, trust and caring.

5. Do not put beautiful women on a pedestal. They is no relationship between a woman's appearance and her character. Beautiful women are flawed like everyone else. They're much more trouble because of their sense of entitlement.

6. Never show weakness. In courtship, don't appear eager. Women interpret this as weakness. Keep your dignity. Nothing earns her respect quicker than rejection. Men think they'll be loved for their sterling qualities. This is not so. Women are focused on themselves. They're looking for men who make them feel secure. They want men who exude confidence. If you're insecure, find a woman who has lower self esteem than you. The best way to impress a woman is don't try. They are flawed human beings. Get to know them as such.

7. The best way to fight sex addiction is to get married. Sex without love is degrading and dehumanizing. Sexual liberation is not wanting sex (because you have it.) Sex is used to manipulate us. People wouldn't be sexually frustrated if they got married at a young age as they did in the 1950's and started families. Women should marry and have kids before going to university; men after beginning their careers.  

8. Do not marry a woman who doesn't make you and her family her first priority. Do you want to share your wife with her boss? 

If you have an aim in life, why marry someone who doesn't support it? Or has a competing agenda? In the marketplace of love, men have the power. Our fertility lasts three times as long as theirs. We're the buyers. There are plenty of fine women, especially if we look abroad.

9. Real women are self-effacing. They put their husbands and their children before themselves. This is how women show love: by self-surrender. Avoid the four-C's: Women who compete, control, criticize or complain. Avoid women who are overachievers or neurotic. Don't get hung up on unavailable women. They're aren't as special as they think. Choose a wife who complements you and is a good companion. Don't look for your "female counterpart." (You're looking for yourself.) Choose one who has qualities you lack and will be a good mother.

10. Being possessive is natural. A man wants to possess a woman. Women want to be possessed. In the act of love, a man "possesses" a woman. Total love equals total possession. This is not the same as domination. It is a partnership based on mutual trust and respect. My wife does not share my political views or read my website.

11. Your seed (semen) is your unique spirit and essence. Would you entrust it to a vulgar or mediocre woman just because she's attractive? Ideally we would only have sex with a woman we would want to mother our children. This is why sex was reserved for marriage.

12. Children represent your organic growth. They are an extension of yourself. The media is doing a number on us. How often do we see children portrayed in a positive light? As the angels they often are? We are rich in proportion to the things we love. The highest love is between husband and wife, and parents and children.

13. Don't waste your time "looking for God." We find God by serving and obeying Him. God speaks through our sense of right and wrong, and ideals of absolute truth, justice and love. We are not men if we refuse to sacrifice our "selves" to God ( i.e. obey) . Truth is liberating even if the truth is about our present bondage.

14. You are not the voice in your head. We cohabit with a monkey. Don't be deceived or upset by how mean and vulgar his thoughts often are. They're not you. You are a spark of Divine consciousness housed in the body of an evolved ape. Your job is to train the ape by training the shared mind.

Some of this was common knowledge when I was a child in the 1950's. Over the years, the Illuminati have gradually undermined the natural order by promoting homosexuality which includes sexual liberation and lesbianism in the guise of feminism.

An establishment that sows fear and confusion between the sexes, and promotes promiscuity and family breakdown does not have your best interest at heart.

Many of our feminist political, cultural and economic "leaders" are moral whores, dupes, traitors and often worse. We resist them by building strong healthy families and giving our children wholesome values.


See also my "Managing the Male Sex Drive"

AND "Men, Seek Helpmates, not Soulmates"    

Scruples - the game of moral dillemas

Comments for "Makow -- Politically Incorrect Advice for Young Men (Updated) "

Karen said (September 19, 2022):

Congratulations, on what I refer to as the total denigration and commodification of another human being. In your September 6, 2022 article, ‘Politically Incorrect Advice for Young Men (Updated),’ you claim 'men gain self-confidence from performing a task well, and receiving reward and recognition,’ but this is not something that holds true just for men but also women. You advise that women should not come between a man and his work and tell men that women don’t respect men who make them their first priority, but then you go on to say men shouldn’t marry a woman who does not make her husband and her family her first priority. Reverse that situation and ask yourself if you would be happy in a marriage where you were expected to put the other individual first while you were expected to run a poor second to their job, and most probably their mates, golf and whatever else gets prioritised as more important than you and your children, and while you are doing it you better not ‘compete, control, criticise, or complain,’ even though your partner exhibits all of these human traits. Have you never heard of the golden rule? ‘In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you’ (Matthew 7:12).

Tony said (February 27, 2015):

Hear, Hear Henry! It took me a while to figure this out as well, but I wholeheartedly concur. I am a white 45 year old American male that was bamboozled most of my years. No matter. I have one teenage son from a failed marriage. I fear he, as well, is being brainwashed by the "One World" machination. I am grateful for people like you that speak out and pull back the curtain to those in the dark. Thanks again Henry for so many years of service.

Diane said (February 27, 2015):

Dear MEN, this article has some truths, but here is some sage advice for you. Women feel unappreciated today because they do have a God-given gift of caring and loving--and men keep trying to take their place in that area and men are becoming pansies or what the intellectuals call "feminized", they are even making Daddy Diaper Bags now!

Women are feeling like they are loosing their identity and chance to show what they are good at--and some even do not ever get to experience this cause they spend their lives at the office.

Here's the advice: What makes women happy is to feel like you appreciate their gifts of love and caring--men do not have this instinct in the same way we do, although it is great when a man is nurturing. Let her shine as the family wife and/or mother and do not compete with her for those roles.

Rich C said (February 26, 2015):

This is one of your finest articles ever. You tie it all together beautifully yet with simplicity and parsimony. This idea that the nature of women has been changed, and obviously by extension, men too, also ties in to the nature of money being changed as well. From a medium of exchange into something that is fruitful and produces itself. As if it copulates and produces new ducats. This is all part and parcel of the big lie.

This article also encapsulates traditional Catholic teaching. Point number 14 and your nod to having some kind of belief in evolution is not problematic to me at all. Because you interpret it in the correct way in recognizing the need for a moral order. Unfortunately, most use the idea of evolution and the "monkey within" to engage in bad behavior. I simply wanted to point out that we Catholics would simply refer to it as Original Sin.

I will be printing this one out and reading it to my children when each one is ready for it. Some already are, others will have it read to them at some point in the future.

Norm B said (February 26, 2015):

"mind control replaces jackboot"

Huxley was closer than Orwell, Henry. Consent, not coercion. It's tough to get the 'consensually downtrodden' to rise up against their masters.

LW said (February 26, 2015):

Great article. I’ve been reading your site the past eight years and it’s amazing how close to home it has hit. I first found it after my now ex-wife divorced me after a year of marriage.

Since then I’ve been lucky enough to marry the “right” woman and we have two beautiful daughters. No doubt being a father has made me a better person and I would do anything for them.

My past is something I would hate to let them know about as I was only in relationships for sex and told lie after lie to get in the sack. Thanks again for awakening me regarding what a relationship should be and the NWO.

They’ve taken away so many freedoms during my life but at least I have my free will and my mind!

Please keep up the great work you share.

Michael E said (February 26, 2015):

Wonderful article!! I am a 21 year old male & I really needed this! The media is so sinister its pushing people down the wrong path. I'm just getting my life together & I would love to hear more of your thoughts/advice so I can spread the word. Peace & thank you so much.

Mary H said (February 26, 2015):

I would add

Seek God with your whole mind, your whole heart and your whole soul.........ask for His Will to be done in your life,
The Lord's Prayer is a good place to start.

Marcos said (February 26, 2015):

An interesting segway of this article is "never commit abortion".

Royal families wait anxiously for their firstborns, as they will inherit the kingdom. The elite prepares their children in the best schools in order to maintain and expand their wealth. Throughout history, proud fathers took joy from their inheritance, as a sign of blessing and accomplishment. A mark in the world. Their posterity.

However, we plebs are expected to murder our babies because they are inconvenient or because the globalists made it too expensive to care for them. We are not supposed to build a posterity or a legacy.

Henry Makow received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto in 1982. He welcomes your comments at