I have read many of the articles on this website. I haven't found one that I disagree with. I am a divorced mother of 2, working full time in a management position, and I have to say that I'm miserable.

I got married young to a man who wanted a mother. He wouldn't work half the time, expected me to make all the decisions for the family, and gave me no emotional support whatsoever. I felt so alone. I felt as though I carried the weight of the world on my shoulders with no support from my husband. I was angry, so very angry. I didn't know why.

After my father (also my best friend, and my rock) passed away, I divorced my husband of 12 years 3 months later. This is when I figured out why I was the way that I was.

The fact is that women are capable of doing all the things that a man can. I'm living proof of that. However....there is a huge price to pay. When a women goes against her natural tendancies, inner termoil and conflict ensue. I hated myself and the whole world when I was married. I resented my husband for not standing up and being a "man". Of course, I did my fair share of knocking him down. Once again, when a woman is forced into becoming the head, she also becomes very hard and vicious.

Anyway...3 years later, and still single, here I am. I have spent the last 2 1/2 years studying the Word of God, and I'm no longer angry. God has given me such understanding of his plan, and his reasons for creating this flesh life as he did. Man, woman, family....all of it.

Women become very angry at God's Word because it it taught by ignorant preachers that she is somehow "less than", in God's eyes. A lie that Satan loves to perpetuate. God set an order to this flesh. An order to nature, to physics and to the whole universe. For no other reason but to give us a visual, a hands on experience. This flesh life and all things that exist "under the sun", give us a vivid picture of those things that cannot be seen. "Spiritual Things".

By looking at nature, we understand what he means when he says to judge someone by the fruits that they bear. Marriage and family are no different. We can understand how the Lord feels about idolotry when we think about our spouse committing audultry. We understand how God loves us when we look at our own children. This flesh life is one big picture book. The unbalancing of natural roles does so much more damage than we see. It's spiritual slaughter. It disconnects us from God. It literally blinds us from him. It perverts and distorts the picture.

Anyway...back to the reason for my contact. Like I said....I truly enjoy this website. The only thing that I think that it lacks is some guidance for the men.

It seems to tell them what to look for in a wife, but not how to become the man that this kind of woman is looking for. They need to have a better understanding of a womans needs and how to feed them. They need to BECOME someone that she can respect and look up to, and not just expect her to do so without walking the walk. We are not blind. If you expect us to turn over the wheel, then you had better be one hell of a driver.

They need to know that women ARE the weaker sex. Just like my body could not withstand the physical abuse that a man could endure, my phyche can't survive those emotional battles either. I need a protector....not an enemy. Unfortunately....I don't think that this can be accomplished without God's Word. They won't learn these things from their own intellect or from anything that society has to offer. Hopefully you can help them. Thanks for listening.

Liz

Henry,

I second Liz' request for an article on how we boys can de-program ourselves into men.

After reading your article "Why Men Are Losing Interest In Women", I dumped my witty, rebellious, sexually liberated girlfriend (she caused me loads of grief by telling me all the intimate details of her past love affairs after I told her not to - repeatedly). I dated (not slept with) twenty-or-so women after our break-up. Not one was remotely modest, chaste, or moral. And almost every one talked about the abusive ex-boyfriend, drug problems, etc...

I saw nothing better than my ex out there, so we started seeing each other again. The same shit happened as before and I ended the relationship.

I recently wrote an article, "Open Letter to Broken-Hearted Women", which explains one of my more recent encounters. It is posted at http://www.yellowtimes.org/article.php?sid=1949&mode=thread&order=0&thold=0 .

Both times I broke it off it was I, not her, that was crying like a baby.

What I and, doubtless, many visitors to your site would like to know is what I can do to make ourselves more attractive to non-head-case, non-emotionally-frigid women.

And where to find them...

I admire all the fine work you've done. Thanks for considering my request.

-Corey