Damning Arab Take on the American Male
January 10, 2011

"You let your women take control, and your society will unravel- it will make your men weak, and destroy your society to its core. "
(From "Happier Abroad" Forum)
What you are about to read is a rare look into how the West and its culture is perceived by an Arab who has lived and traveled all over the world and is a keen observer of society and people.
Meeting Westerners, one of the things I noticed was how insecure and emasculated they seemed to me; compared to myself and the male-dominated, testosterone-driven culture of my land.
Western men seemed fragile somehow, unsure of themselves and their worth, the vast majority of them. Some put on fake personas, some overcompensated ... none quite had the quiet confidence that people from our culture possess. On the internet, most Americans seemed to act like little bitches, little girls brought up in a Feminist perversion of nature.
I now understand why; after observing the complex dynamics of U.S. and Western society.
It was only after coming to the U.S. and studying here that all the pieces came together - a fascinating look at a dysfunctional man-hating civilization that is the polar opposite of my own culture, and will eventually lead to the collapse of Western civilization.
Where I come from, men walk proud and rule the streets and testosterone runs in the air; and strong patriarchal foundations of family and the father as ruler of the household. Men harass and aggressively follow women - it is unapologetically a man's world. Men are imbued with confidence and have high self esteem; women are (funnily enough) horny and demure; and feminine and understand the natural order of things.
In the U.S., Feminism has so corrupted the society to its core, damaged the very concept of family and the family unit and the father's role, that society as a whole is like some bizarre alien planet - where men are bland, lack personality, are anti-social, gossipy, soul-less. Men are weak and insecure deep inside. People are disconnected and paranoid, anti-social and self-absorbed.
It's a society where men have become emasculated. Bizarre and cliquish; I can sense the odd social-cultural constructs permeating the country - it is a deeply segregated and fake culture. Men cannot feel confident and assured here like in strong patriarchies; women have all the power and American men seem clueless as to how bizarre the male-female dynamic has become.
In the workplace, Americans are Automatons, like soul-less hamsters on a wheel. Fake conversations, no intellectualism, no interest in other countries, peoples, or history.
Also, terrible social and people skills - at least in California. Most people communicate via twitter and Facebook, even though most of the people on their Facebook live in the same city and a phone call away.
People are vacuous, shallow, superficial, suggestible. Men raised here are fake, insecure, lack personality; they seem to have "issues." Women are confused and messed up ..
You let your women take control, and your society will unravel- it will make your men weak, and destroy your society to its core. The patriarchy is a male conceived and enforced institution that was imposed on females, because men, and only men understand well the long-term impacts of civilization and harnessing male energies into productive family units and a stable society .... civilization itself is a result of patriarchy.
To sum if up, it seems to be that the United States is schizophrenic , like a Jekyll and Hyde monstrosity. There is no community, no camaraderie, no soul; men and women are willing servants to their corporate masters and slaves to materialism and superficiality; and incredibly conformist, reserved, and politically correct to the point of totalitarianism.
http://www.happierabroad.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=9345
SA said (January 13, 2011):
As 30 year-old Arab-American who lived in the states for 20 years, i would not generalize the entire population of the US as such. There are still those very rooted and conventional americans whom i would be proud to call my fellow=0Aamericans and even some lovely american women who would make a much better spouce then some of today's arab women.of course the statistic and figures are somewhat lopsided as you would imagine.
My country {Yemen} is very similar to Saudi Arabia in tradition ans values. However, Women are free to pretty much do anything they want here. Islam does not limit or oppress women here or anywhere; it is the traditions and and=0Aclinging to the dark ages of pre-islamic ignorance that does.Infact, here in Yemen, before the invasion and submerging of the Wahaabi doctrine propaganda, women were as the were in the times of the Prophet [pbuh], they were our sisters, mothers, aunts and grandmothers. there we
re bukras/Niqab, and they roamed and socialized with men of their tribes and
villages and played an active role in society. Today, about 90% are bukra covered and sexual deviance is ever more widespread then say 20 r 30 years ago because of this sexual repression coupled with the economic conditions and costs of marriage
This guy writes:
"Meeting Westerners, one of the things I noticed was how insecure and emasculated they seemed to me; compared to myself and the male-dominated, testosterone-driven culture of my land"
Again, as an Arab, i would have to=0Adisagree with this pompous and arrogant rem
ark. This guy makes it seem like comes straight out of the Serengeti or something. He doesn't mention how homosexuality is prevalent amongst the Arab countries, Saudi Arabia in particular. In fact the letter from KD is pretty accurate, albeit he seems to blame all this on the 'hypocrisy of slam', which is like blaming a disease on its cure or remedy because it was not administered or applied as it should. Do we blame all 'Christian' or 'Jewish' deviance on their religion, its effectiveness or its 'hypocrisy'? Very narrow minded and biased, if you ask me. This is also a diservice to Arabs and Muslims as much as what this guy write.
The best way to realize this for your self is to visit a somewhat moderate Islamic nation like Syria,Palestineturkey or Malaysia.This isn't about arab vs. non-arab. it is about FAITH and tradition as well as culture and civilization and the ability of one side to grasp and apply while the other has been deluded literally to aculture of 'what was last released in the movie theatres' or last fashioned and marketed as hip and trendy and 'normal' by the Satanic powers that be.