Feminine Women
September 20, 2016
Many women are still in touch
with their feminine instincts.
They like masculine men
and want to build their life around
husband and family. Young men
should narrow their quest to women
who are receptive to them, and ignore the rest.
Enlist, don't petition. For a woman
to be a woman, a man must be a man. He must lead.
"Don't waste time trying to make a shoe fit because you're starved for love. Instead, narrow the pool down to women who want you."
(from 2002)
by Henry Makow Ph.D.
Men need to distinguish between women who are feminine and those who are inverted.
A feminine woman is receptive to men. She exudes cheerfulness and inviting warmth. A man can make a friendly remark and be well received.
An inverted woman, on the other hand, is fearful and defiant in the presence of men. She has been taught that man is a competitor, or worse, a predator.
Woman's essential nature is to be an incubator of love. Her natural role is to create an environment in which living beings thrive. Her destiny is to love a man, and through him her children. Her reward is their love and happiness.
Sexual intercourse and childbirth are manifestations of a spiritual relationship. A man must first plant his spirit in a woman's heart and find a warm reception. That spirit takes root and love grows into a sapling, and then a towering oak. Finally, a child is the expression of this unseen reality.
What are the elements of this male-female dynamic?
The male must present a woman with a spirit that she can embrace. Men generally use money or power to appeal to women. However, a man is much more than a provider or doer. He is an agent of God. Every man has a divine mission and purpose on earth. This mission imbues him with a confident masculinity, which appeals to a woman's higher instincts.
Do women lose their identity in this process? Yes. Partly. Psychiatrist Marie Robinson calls this their "essential altruism." Women were designed to find identity and self-fulfillment in their husband and family. This is positive. Ultimately, women do not get satisfaction in worldly achievement. They find fulfillment from giving and receiving love. They are creatures of love, God's creatures.
The essence of womanhood is the maternal. A woman nurtures and makes things grow. She gives her husband and children unconditional love. Similarly, the essence of manhood is the paternal. A husband gives direction, purpose and security to his wife and family. Everything leading up to marriage is preparation for these complementary roles.
Marriage is a mystical union. Man and woman become one. The sword in its sheath; the record in its sleeve. This union in love is the wholeness we all seek. It is a prerequisite for happiness and personal development. Otherwise, we are stalled, i.e. obsessed with sex. In order for union to take place, a woman must identify her self-interest with her husband's. She becomes part of him. He becomes part of her. Their happiness is one.
Couples who remain "independent" are in competition with each other. They cannot know true intimacy. They cannot know true love.
COUNTERING SEXUAL INVERSION
Powerful forces in the world use the mass media to create social trends. These forces are promoting sexual inversion in order to sabotage the nuclear family and destabilize society. They dupe women into denying their femininity and usurping the masculine role. As a result, millions of women are inverted and are missing the boat. Rather than creating loving environments, they are aggressive and self-seeking. They need someone to create a loving environment for them. Hence the power struggle that makes "equal" relationships a constant trial.
(In The Bostonians, Christopher Reeves helps young woman see past feminist deception)
In practical terms, what does this mean for men? 1) "A man makes the house, the woman makes the home." A man must get his personal and professional act together. 2) He must love the woman who loves him. Otherwise he should leave her alone. 3) Men should not waste too much time on inverted women, i.e. feminists. (A wag said marrying a feminist is like a Jew marrying an Anti-Semite.)
A strong man might help a feminist rediscover her femininity. (See the movie The Bostonians, for an example.) But you're dealing with milk that has curdled. Better to find a woman who is naturally feminine and naturally receptive. This requires many contacts; the Internet is perfect for this. Don't waste time trying to make a shoe fit just because you're starved for love. Instead, narrow the pool down to women who want you.
I found a woman with traditional values in Mexico and finally found happiness. My wife taught me how a woman creates a loving environment. She gives me s-p-a-c-e, mental and physical. She observes the 4c's of true womanhood. She doesn't compete, criticize, control or complain. If I look at another woman, she doesn't jump on me. She's my friend, not my jailer.
Is she a doormat? She has a Master's Degree in Information Technology from a leading U.S. university and a career of her own. I do all the shopping and cooking and try to make her happy. Our marriage proves that roles can be flexible when identities are secure. We've been married 15 years.
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First Comment from William D
Your most recent article just hits a sore spot with me as I realize how much time I wasted on a woman who would never love me. It may be too late for me, but I may help another misled young man by telling him your words are those of wisdom and experience. And any young man who wants to be happy should heed your story.
JW said (September 21, 2016):
I feel I must comment in response to the 53 year old woman [below] who has 'never met a man that was true husband material' due to the fact they always wanted to have sex before marriage. I must say I had to read that several times to be sure I was reading correctly. I am personally very committed to family values and respect for women - where respect is due. However, in my 55 years on this planet I haven't met anyone of my generation who did not have sex with their wife to be before marriage. (Or in any circumstance didn't want to) I mean what a terrible mistake that could be . Even previous generations invariably had sex before marriage. Only difference being it wasn't openly discussed or admitted to in polite circles.
To write of a man who finds a lady, that he may very well love and respect, because he desires to do what is biologically hardwired is quite absurd. If most women followed this line of thinking then there would be very few marriages. Which would suit perfectly the feminist agenda. The commenter is obviously - it seems - an extreme feminist which has resulted in her being unable to find a suitable husband. However, I get the feeling she doesn't quite understand her own disposition.
Anon replies:
53 year old Anonymous Response to JW
Wow JW completely misses the boat and is a case in point of calling evil, good and good, evil. He thinks a chaste virgin waiting for marriage is a feminist? Just because the world condones fornication does not make it right or Holy. Fornication undermines Marriage. Indeed it is healthy that a man seeking marriage to a woman should DESIRE to have sex with her. But to be a healthy leading husband, he must have restraint. No man can "very well love and respect" a woman if he manipulates her into having premarital sex. What advice would JW say to all the women who were tricked into having pre-marital sex only to discover later, after they did the deed that the man only used the ruse of a future marriage to get sex?
As my father would say, " Why pay for the cow, if the milk is free?"
I have to throw my hands up and laugh because I teach chastity classes to teens. Thus, I understand exactly what I am saying and men that take my class agree. Although that does not mean every man changes their lustful ways, but they realize they are demonic, they accept it and prefer to stay that way.
From a man's POV, Pastor Anderson:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jHrMN_vzWmw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=poV7T7-PY3k
JW replies:
I think the following sentence say it all when it comes to a totally brainwashed mind set of an ultra feminist. I will say no more as I am sure the readers are intelligent enough to make their own judgment: 'No man can love a woman if he manipulates her in to pre marital sex'. Is there not consent. Where on earth does the manipulation lie! Really your comments show your extreme feminist disposition. Exactly what Henry often talks of. I get the feeling that you are once small step form stating that all sex with a woman before marriage is technically rape due to the perceived manipulation. I find your views very dangerous. Fortunately you are in a minority with your extreme way of thinking. Really you could be given the wrong position of power responsible for innocent men going to prison, family's destroyed. Currently you are likely responsible for warping the minds of vulnerable you girls
Anon replies:
Here is the flawed logic of JW. Instead of answering the question about the man who does actually manipulate a woman into pre-marital sex because he falsely promises marriage -He has no answer. How is a woman supposed to protect herself from con-men? Why does my father think women who give up the "milk" are sluts and not worth "buying" i.e. marrying? Instead, JW must resort to an extreme assumption, I might have: 'all sex with a woman before marriage is technically rape' then as IF that was true, jumping to a false and unwarranted conclusion that, I am 'dangerous' 'responsible for innocent men going to prison, family's destroyed' "warping vulnerable girls'.
A man talking a woman into pre-marital sex is not a show of his LOVE for her. If she consents it is obviously NOT rape. Many feminist women today, do not value the gift of their sexuality and they are the initiators of sex, thus no man is talking them into having sex. Consensual pre-marital sex is never rape.
FYI it is usually the Fathers of teen girls that hire me to give my chastity workshops.
Again I invite you to carefully listen to Paster Anderson's links.