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Domestic Violence 'Lite'

November 21, 2015


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Domestic violence laws are designed
to emasculate men. 

Sean Gaffney describes how they
helped impair his health and 
destroy a lifetime's work.  





Makow comment- As comments indicate, a side effect of domestic violence laws is that many men no longer have any respect for the "law" and that is not good for any society. 




by Sean Gaffney 
(henrymakow.com) 


This was a wake up call for me after decades of marriage. I had heard of other guys having troubles; never expected this would happen to me.

A few days after my wife moved back after being at her boyfriend's place for a couple months, we were quarrelling. [I learned later from her boyfriend that she had had two dozen affairs over the course of our 26-year marriage.) 

She was trying to kick me out of our lakefront home. I was the one paying the mortgage; she didn't have to work. 

I held onto her arm to get her attention. All I said was "you don't get it". 

She said, "you can't touch me"; left the house and called the police.

I wasn't expecting the police; saw three of them coming up the steps, opened the door and welcomed them in. They asked what happened; I told them. 

The female police officer in charge said she had no choice. Once the police are called, an arrest has to be made even though she could see I was not upset or angry. Ontario has made arrests mandatory for  all domestic "incidents". She was very considerate throughout the arrest process. 

I got handcuffed in front, instead of behind my back. At the detachment, I was put in a cell. I spoke to a lawyer who said I would be released shortly, which, he said, never happens. I got to go home an hour later. As I left, one of the arresting police even wished me well. I sought out a female lawyer that came highly recommended. Cost was $2000.

When I appeared at court the first time, there was a mix up. My Lawyer had sent me on my own. I got overlooked; court was dismissed for lunch. When I came back the place was empty. The Crown Attorney told me an arrest warrant would be issued even though he said it was their mistake. At the next appearance, I was represented and ordered to take an 'anger management' course.

Fortunately, the lady giving the 'anger management' course, which cost me another $2000, saw through all the injustice. She sympathized with the guys taking the course. One had been stabbed by his wife. (There were no women taking the course.)
 
I was told I could have been teaching the course. About six months into the process, I had a paralyzing stroke partly from all the stress.

It was a learning experience.

With the help of the anger management coach, not my Lawyer (who aggravated the Crown), the charges were dropped after a year. 
I think all the guys I know who have been through the system, have been decimated; costing tens of thousands; losing access to their children, losing their house, etc. 

My advice. Stay calm. Don't say anything about what happened (I didn't know this). Ranting at the police won't get you anywhere.
 
So I came through the process differently than most. My wife has moved on. It probably cost me less than five grand and a bunch of wasted time. But the divorce cleaned me out. I am living on old age assistance.

Domestic violence lite. 

I call it a learning experience.

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First Comment from KPR:

There are still many, apparently, who do not realize this: Talking to police is, to put it bluntly, STUPID. Don't interact in any way, other than to provide them with your ID. Don't answer their questions. Don't offer your 'side'. Expect anything you say to be turned around and used against you. The police aren't there to reason, or to referee. They are there to find a pretext to haul your ass off and introduce you to the system of JustUs, up close and personal. Fewer arrests = fewer reasons to increase budgets and hire more police - which goes against everything the Fraternal Order of Police (or whatever name the masons gave to the Canadian version of the American police union) want. 

You are a commodity. 

Police are not paid to 'protect and serve' you. They are paid to protect and serve those in power and those with authority or connections through assets or fraternity. As George Carlin said, it's a big club and you ain't in it. You are grist for the mill. And once it begins grinding away, well... who knows what the finished product will be. 

Don't call police. Would you call a click of Rollin 60's Crips to your home for any reason? Educate your children. Police are not their friends. Educate your children: Do Not Call Police. If someone else calls the thugs (like the 'woman' did in the article) keep your counsel. Without your words the degree of difficulty for the prosecution to convict you of a specious 'crime' just shot thru the roof. With your words, they'll crucify you. Remember the old 'name rank and serial number' meme? That still survives, in its own fashion, today. 

Educate your children. Do not talk. Do not interact. Do not allow yourself to be befriended. Do not call the devil to pay a visit. The consequences can and often are financially and even physically DEADLY. 




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Comments for "Domestic Violence 'Lite'"

Peter C said (November 22, 2015):

I have known for sometime that the Masons control our Police. In England were it all started the Masons realized long ago that controlling the Police gives you enormous power. Up until WW2 the Catholics were also a force in the Australian Police and they used to oppose the Masons. But after WW2 the Catholics have died out.
Jeremy Clarkson was aware that the Masons ran the English police, and he would make jokes about the English police and their secret handshake. Lol
Once i was pulled over for a breath
test and i said 'on the square brother' the policeman quickly waved me on. And a friend sitting next to me said 'what did you do he didn't breathalyze you'.

The English Policeman Peter Ryan was a big Mason and he was sent around England to stop Masons drink driving, if you were a Mason and pulled over the police did not breathalyze you, it was a big thing, Masons could drive drunk.

Our Masons sacked Peter Ryan when he was sent to Australia to do the same thing.
Our masons are all powerful.


Peter said (November 22, 2015):

There is one method of marriage that is not discussed anywhere due to the extreme political correctness.

The so-called traditional church wedding and that marriage
certificate that binds the two together as employees of the
state. The legal entanglement here is horrendous and is the
cause of so much trouble.

The only way to get married, after a proper courtship is to
use the Common Law method of marriage. In this way, both
the man and the woman keep their names separate from each other. This benefits both at tax time. Individuals pay less when they are “single.” If later later they decide to split up, it is a simple walk off with their assets owned by each to remain with each.


Paul said (November 22, 2015):

White men are not the only ones suffering. A Sudanese man told me that almost all Sudanese men have criminal records because of domestic violence. An East Indian woman who, along with her husband, had been cops told me that they quit being cops because they couldn't keep arresting men in domestic violence disputes. This woman felt that (at least here in Ontario) 80% of the fault lay with women, not men.

Interestingly, I personally witnessed a Jewish couple fighting and the cops coming but when the cops understood they were Jewish, they were simply given a phone number for Jewish services if they felt inclined to phone. Not everyone is treated the same.


Mike B said (November 22, 2015):

A few days after my wife moved back after being at her boyfriend's place for a couple months, we were quarrelling.'
Stop right there, please. Is this fellow really to be taken seriously?


Kurt said (November 22, 2015):

About 15 years ago I worked with a young fellow who married his live-in girlfriend. They had a child between them. He was laid back and she was hot tempered. After about two years of marriage she had him served with divorce papers. He told me that while he was reading the decree she was ranting and raving at him. He said she walked up to him and grabbed the papers he was reading which caused him to instinctively snap them back and in the process lightly clipped her nose. She immediately called police and he was arrested for domestic violence. He said he realized he had been set-up as her girlfriends admitted telling her how to provoke it. He lost the house and furnishings.

Today he has a new girlfriend. They have a child together that has his name and he supports them. Their house is in his name and if they split he would willingly support his daughter but the woman would get nothing. This seem to be the trend today as young guys figure out the game.

Good for them but bad for society as a whole.

Divorce laws are part of the agenda to devalue the family unit.


Ray said (November 22, 2015):

If this type of situation arise to a man after years of marriage..

"A few days after my wife moved back after being at her boyfriend's place for a couple months, we were quarrelling. [I learned later from her boyfriend that she had had two dozen affairs over the course of our 26-year marriage.) "

What kind of s stupid schmuck is he ?? Wife left him for a couple of months & then come back ?? He's accepting that?? After 48 hours he should have contacted a good lawyer & institute a proceeding for desertion of marriage, get a restraining order against her....
Then ASAP sell all what he can, realize all in cash & pee off somewhere else, as far & fast as possible..


MA said (November 21, 2015):

In Ontario, they will pretty much arrest you for anything, and the police here are genuinely useless. I know Sean is grateful for the little kindness they showed him, but they still intervened in his life, and entered his home to arrest him. Invasion of territory is a natural justification to put a man into a rage.

When I was younger I remember my sister called the police on me because of an altercation between us (we were always at odds, she even stole hundreds of dollars from me unrepentant). When they arrived one of the women coptards was undermining my place in my own home, essentially telling my parents to give me the boot, and another 'officer' said I smelled. To this day my blood boils thinking about it, because they invaded my territory and had the audacity to think themselves authoritarians over me.

I don't put up with their garbage anymore. Recently this past summer I was driving home on a country highway (straight and safe as can be) exhausted from work, and two of them stopped me and give me a nice big speeding ticket. I crumpled it up in their faces and told them they were out to collect money like the mafia they are. And low and behold the OPP were everywhere the next week.

So lets cut the crap, and stop pretending there are good cops, they are all cogs in the Masonic system. If I die tomorrow no one will care other than my parents, if one of them dies the media will ensure the entire nation mourns; all the while, all they really ever did in life was steal money from hardworking people trying to get home to their families.

But overall Sean's advice to stay calm is good, ranting at the idiots wont get you anywhere. They have unlimited power over you because of this system we live under.

Also, Ive seen my father continuously in my life put down by my mother to the point where he has been largely emasculated. Its pathetic to watch, and it causes me to lose respect in him sadly, he's a good man, and thats part of his problem, he puts up with too much crap.

In reality, in nature, the male is the ruler of the territory and the females, and God help the other beast who enters his territory to mess up his life. But we live in an unnatural matrix.


Al Thompson said (November 21, 2015):

They asked what happened; I told them. " When the cops ask you questions there are only three ways to answer: shut up, shut up, and shut up. The cops will sometimes say: "Do you understand?" Just shut up. If you are going to be a target of this woman, the best thing for you to do is to just shut up and let the accuser prove you did something. Don't say shit to the cops because they will find something to make your life absolutely miserable. There isn't any point in giving the authorities the rope to hang yourself. This goes for most encounters with coptards. They are not your friends. They need cases to steal more money from the public, and this incident is a perfect example of it.

Some women enjoy overpowering a man with financial ruin. These are the most worthless wenches and should be avoided; especially in marriage. Just leave them alone. I think the old-fashioned way of doing a courtship instead of dating. A courtship would be a relationship between a man and a woman with the expressed intent to see if they are good for each other for marriage; whereas, dating is simply going out with each other just for fun and maybe marriage later on. A courtship would not include any sex as dating usually has sex associated with it. I think this is a better way to find the right spouse and eliminate critical conflicts before a marriage occurs. I wish I had done this early on I think I would have saved myself a lot of aggravation.
http://verydumbgovernment.blogspot.com/2015/10/courtship-vs-dating.html


DD said (November 21, 2015):

This is an ongoing and despicable injustice in the family court system against men.

You should look at Roger F Devlin's 'Rotating Polyandry'.

Laws need to change:

Wealth is shared IN marriage, not after it.

1. No alimony in divorce.

2. Equal child support and child custody. When the child is with the father, HE pays and decides what the expenses will be--- (like in the real world every day!!). When the children are with the woman--- she pays.

3. Prenuptial agreements are respected and enforced.

4.. Each spouses earnings in marriage are theirs in marriage and after marriage. They take their savings and earnings separately with them.

These things are shared by choice in marriage, NOT after.
Men are being made prey to the state through marriage and relationships with women. Women will be exploited too, but all too many women will either not care or prefer the 'security' of this injustice.

People's silence on this is complicity in evil.


Dan Abshear said (November 21, 2015):

I can relate to what happened to this man. I wish him peace now.

Yes police can sense if you really are a threat or not. When my DV incident happened, police were shaking my hand after being arrested and released. When I got arrested in 2011, I actually helped the arresting police officer process me out of the police station. I was suppose to be put in a holding cell then. You can read about that here: http://www.opednews.com/articles/The-Hope-Of-A-Lost-Homeles-by-Dan-Abshear-121205-180.html


SS said (November 21, 2015):

I don't think the idea of getting screwed over for everything you had was a win or even a draw. It's a total loss. At your age.

I can see you being a gentleman that this might seem a compromise to live your life out as a pauper, but not me.

Had my wife of 26 years.cheated on me more than once, she'd be pushing up daisies beside a few other of her so-called "defenders."

Nothing speaks for the wages of sin than the proper punishment. Maybe had a few in earlier times drew a line in the sand and made their examples could we all have
been spared these unnecessary and untoward experiences. But, it might be too late for most men to start acting like men.


Henry Makow received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto in 1982. He welcomes your comments at