Young Man is Saving Sex for Marriage
August 21, 2014
(Brian sees sex as part of marriage and procreation.)"Gaming" young women and
seeking sex for its own sake
strikes Brian as degrading
and pointless.
Brian is a 22-year-old postgraduate student who lives in Ireland. His interests include hiking, reading and "stemming the decline of Christian civilization."
"Whenever a man longs for anything beyond measure immediately he is disturbed within. The proud and the covetous are never at rest. The poor and the humble of spirit live in the fullness of peace." Thomas a Kempis, The Imitation of Christ
by Brian
(henrymakow.com)
I have enjoyed reading articles in the so called "manosphere" for quite some time now. Many important topics are tackled in an objective and pragmatic way and it is refreshing to get away from the mush oozing from the liberal media. However, I cannot condone is the pickup culture, the "pump-and-dump," the spending of huge amounts of effort in order to engage in promiscuous sex where a woman is simply used in a selfish and hedonistic way.
I have enjoyed reading articles in the so called "manosphere" for quite some time now. Many important topics are tackled in an objective and pragmatic way and it is refreshing to get away from the mush oozing from the liberal media. However, I cannot condone is the pickup culture, the "pump-and-dump," the spending of huge amounts of effort in order to engage in promiscuous sex where a woman is simply used in a selfish and hedonistic way.
This behavior is so common and socially accepted that it is not even questioned anymore. I have met many good men whose main priority in life seems to be getting laid. They let their trousers do their thinking and are perfectly content doing it.
I know what many of you are thinking. It's the women's fault for becoming "liberated". They are getting exactly what they deserve. Yet I urge you all to reconsider. Many of these women are brainwashed by the decadent culture sold to them by MTV.
They are told 24/7 that the most important thing in life is their fun and told not to think of the consequences. In a way, they remind me of a child who continues to gorge on chocolate even though it will give him a tummy ache later. The child is too stupid to realize his pleasure now will cost him dearly in the future.
I see promiscuous women as fallen human beings who are on the ground rolling around in their own filth. If I was to "game" such a woman, using psychological techniques learned on the manosphere to take my pleasure only to avoid her after the deed, all I have done is kicked her when she is down and in most need of help.
I know what many of you are thinking. It's the women's fault for becoming "liberated". They are getting exactly what they deserve. Yet I urge you all to reconsider. Many of these women are brainwashed by the decadent culture sold to them by MTV.
They are told 24/7 that the most important thing in life is their fun and told not to think of the consequences. In a way, they remind me of a child who continues to gorge on chocolate even though it will give him a tummy ache later. The child is too stupid to realize his pleasure now will cost him dearly in the future. I see promiscuous women as fallen human beings who are on the ground rolling around in their own filth. If I was to "game" such a woman, using psychological techniques learned on the manosphere to take my pleasure only to avoid her after the deed, all I have done is kicked her when she is down and in most need of help.
It is the ultimate act of hate. She is someone's daughter, sister, mother. She is also a child of God, however misguided. I am furious at feminists and what they have reduced the West to, but I will not be forced to play their sick game.
By way of example, a good friend of mine dated this girl once. He is an intelligent guy who looks after himself and she was absolutely smitten with him. I saw the way she looked at him, her eyes hopeful and full of love.
By way of example, a good friend of mine dated this girl once. He is an intelligent guy who looks after himself and she was absolutely smitten with him. I saw the way she looked at him, her eyes hopeful and full of love.
Yet from talking to him, I knew he did not take their relationship seriously. He had sex on tap for the price of having to spend a few hours with her every week. If he had the opportunity to sleep with other girls, he took it. On a human level, I felt sorry for her. Was it fair for him to use her to satisfy his libido?
I therefore remain a celibate man. The next time I will be having sex is the night of my wedding.
I therefore remain a celibate man. The next time I will be having sex is the night of my wedding. Do not get me wrong, I am not deprived of female attention. However, any girl who is not potential marriage material simply does not get the time of day as I refuse to waste my time.
Instead I focus on other aspects of my life. My legal career is progressing nicely. I devour volumes on history, philosophy and politics (which allow me to tear those liberals apart in debates). At the weekends I hike out in the wilderness. I have also taken my Catholicism more seriously. Celibacy is not too difficult, provided it is approached with the right attitude.
The only way to change a sick world is to change ourselves first. Jaded by years of feminist indoctrination, it is time to become human again. To conclude, I present another quote from The Imitation of Christ (which I sincerely urge every Christian to read):
"Therefore true peace of heart is found in resisting passions, not yielding to them. There is therefore no peace in the heart of a carnal man, nor in the man devoted to the things around him, but only in the fervent and the spiritual."
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The only way to change a sick world is to change ourselves first. Jaded by years of feminist indoctrination, it is time to become human again. To conclude, I present another quote from The Imitation of Christ (which I sincerely urge every Christian to read):
"Therefore true peace of heart is found in resisting passions, not yielding to them. There is therefore no peace in the heart of a carnal man, nor in the man devoted to the things around him, but only in the fervent and the spiritual."
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First Comment from Victoria:
Excellent article from Brian and congratulations to him for being only 22 yet taking such a mature and compassionate view of things.
Speaking as one of the (formerly) rabid feminists who ignorantly helped to inflict that ideology on the world from the 1970's to the mid '90s, it is women such as myself who young men should be directing their anger towards and not young women, who are simply the result of 50 or more years of social brainwashing.
In my defense, I have to say that it was being the product of an unbalanced marriage, by having an incredibly angry, 'patriarchal' father who saw the women in his family as his 'chattel'; and, a passive - but resentful - mother who never contradicted anything he said or did. It was these conditions that drove me into the feminist camp when I went off to university. And, like so many of us 'boomers', who had fathers who had served in the military during WWII, the authoritarian structure of my family was not uncommon in those days. So, men must take some of the responsibility for having created the fertile soil into which the seeds of that movement were planted. And, it was their sons who 'benefited' by the more liberal attitude to sex that it brought about...
It is my great regret that I, and my (formerly) feminist peers are unable to pass on to young women the benefits of the painful lessons we have learned. We, older women, are still seen as washed-up, over-the-hill, and irrelevant to most younger women. I don't know from where Brian has acquired his wisdom but all credit to him for having done so. Men are, and always will (I now believe) predominate in this world because of their greater physical power and energy, and if not allowed to do so in a positive, responsible, constructive way, will do so negatively. By choosing the former rather than the latter path, Brian is setting an excellent example for other young men of his generation. Good luck to him!
First Comment from Victoria:
Excellent article from Brian and congratulations to him for being only 22 yet taking such a mature and compassionate view of things.
Speaking as one of the (formerly) rabid feminists who ignorantly helped to inflict that ideology on the world from the 1970's to the mid '90s, it is women such as myself who young men should be directing their anger towards and not young women, who are simply the result of 50 or more years of social brainwashing.
In my defense, I have to say that it was being the product of an unbalanced marriage, by having an incredibly angry, 'patriarchal' father who saw the women in his family as his 'chattel'; and, a passive - but resentful - mother who never contradicted anything he said or did. It was these conditions that drove me into the feminist camp when I went off to university. And, like so many of us 'boomers', who had fathers who had served in the military during WWII, the authoritarian structure of my family was not uncommon in those days. So, men must take some of the responsibility for having created the fertile soil into which the seeds of that movement were planted. And, it was their sons who 'benefited' by the more liberal attitude to sex that it brought about...
It is my great regret that I, and my (formerly) feminist peers are unable to pass on to young women the benefits of the painful lessons we have learned. We, older women, are still seen as washed-up, over-the-hill, and irrelevant to most younger women. I don't know from where Brian has acquired his wisdom but all credit to him for having done so. Men are, and always will (I now believe) predominate in this world because of their greater physical power and energy, and if not allowed to do so in a positive, responsible, constructive way, will do so negatively. By choosing the former rather than the latter path, Brian is setting an excellent example for other young men of his generation. Good luck to him!
CG said (August 22, 2014):
Years later an Angel in my dream explained to me to only have sex for any of these reasons: MAKE BABIES, LOVE OR MARRIAGE; These are the
only reasons. I repeat these are the ONLY reasons. I wish I could go back in time and undo my stupidity of letting clueless socially
engineered fools shame me into debauching myself.
I pray Brain keep his standards high, keeping in mind what the Angel told me and deal only with a good woman that loves Yeshua and him.